But yeah, when is the right time? Should it be real soon, or should you wait a while until your partner can get to know you as a person, instead of just "that girl with HIV"?

My moto is to reveal all as soon as possible because then you know what's in stall for you. If the other person doesn't feel comfortable with this, then it says more about them than me. On the other hand I realise this is a way I protect myself because if i fall in love with someone with whom I confide, and he can't deal with it, I'm afraid of feeling down. So I say it right away.

I'm fed up with men I meet, with whom I fail and who are not honest about their motives for leaving. I'd rather hear from people that they can't deal with HIV. But then again, they are often afraid of hurting me and therefore don't ask me anything about my HIV. I rather like it when people are interested or ask questions.